Everybody wants inclusion … so why are we so polarized?

first_imgThis is placeholder text This post is currently collecting data… As we watch the dust settle on the 2020 Presidential election, I am hyperaware of the extreme polarization that exists in America and in our workplaces. Over the past eight months, I have studied and written on the impact of Covid-19 on inclusive workplaces. It involved looking at the necessity of credit unions to provide remote work options, acknowledging the need for managers to be intentionally inclusive during uncertain times, and exploring how Covid might impact women’s professional gains and what employers could do to help.As the year has stretched on, my research and work with clients has piqued my curiosity even further about an increasing sense of polarization and the realization that the workplace is not free from this division—despite so much recent attention on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion.Just looking at one current event—the Presidential election—the potential for division in the workplace is apparent. A 2019 study from the Society of Human Resources Management found that 42% of respondents personally experienced political disagreements in the workplace, and over one-third do not feel their workplace is inclusive of differing political perspectives. If we are hoping this gets better after the election, we might learn from 2016: An American Psychological Association survey showed that after that election, American workers experiencing negative outcomes related to discussing politics at work rose from 27% to 40%, reporting issues like reduced productivity and increased hostility. Why—despite increased awareness of the value of inclusion and understanding others—are we still so polarized? And, many of you may be asking, why must organizations shoulder the burden of helping people overcome this division? Possibly, the answer lies in the necessity of building trust in the workplace. As humans, we have evolved to survive; however, most of the time the target audience of my writing—organizational leaders—are more likely focused on thriving rather than surviving. Day-to-day, there are few fight-or-flight triggers and very little need to be surrounded by a tribe of likeminded individuals keen on preserving our way of life.At least it was that way until a global pandemic pushed the population into a survivalist mode and a scarcity mindset. In March 2020, the world became very dangerous. Others’ decisions and attitudes threatened lives and livelihoods. There was scarcity—of protective equipment, of toilet paper, of food, and of time as people attended to work and remote learning and emergency preparedness. In a place of scarcity, people become defensive, working to protect themselves, their families, and their way of life. When their ideas for protection are threatened by other ways of thinking that contradict their carefully crafted survival strategies, the response is defensive. It drives a strong sense of us vs. them thinking, defining the other as a dangerous threat. This idea of the “other” has been a long-standing obstacle to inclusion. Understanding the “other” (and the reality that to someone, each one of us is the “other”) is a key reason that effective workplace DEI integration strategies start with work that expands personal awareness of what has shaped individuals. Today, rather than understand the “other,” many people are able to simply avoid the threats of “others,” though. There is no need to engage in meaningful conversations with people who think differently than us. We unfriend, unfollow, or change social media platforms if we don’t like what we are hearing. We find another news outlet, another church, another friend if our beliefs aren’t confirmed. This year, especially, interactions have been limited due to Stay Safe Stay Home orders and other elements of social distance. When you add this shrinking world to an on-demand media menu, people live more tribally than they have in generations, intentionally surrounding themselves only with those who support their personal beliefs, avoiding interactions with those who threaten their ideals.Until they go to work. The workplace may be one of the last places in the country where people are required to interact meaningfully with people who might not share their own perspectives. At work, 100 Million Americans are engaging with one another without the option of unfriending or unfollowing if values do not align.The workplace requires a sophistication of communication that is honest, respectful, and learning-focused. An environment that encourages political correctness or assimilation—instruction to employees to “go along to get along”– will not help your organization arrive at a place of authentic inclusion. It will not build trust and candor that results in better innovation, collaboration, and service to members. At work, employees must overcome their tribal instincts and collaborate with people who have different perspectives, ideas, and frames of reference. As a leader or DEI Champion in these times of fear, uncertainty, and scarcity, this is what you are up against. You may find yourself trying to expand trust in a workplace where your team members’ instincts are telling them to protect and preserve their own survival. As you work to build an inclusive workplace where people can come together and listen to different perspectives, you must first create a sense of safety that allows people to lower their defenses. Understanding the scarcity mindset many people are in right now makes it more important than ever to do the work, dedicating the time and energy and attention to persistently and consistently creating a place where your team members receive the message that they are safe, that they are valued, and that your interest in inclusion is authentic and for everyone.  If your organization is working to build a culture of trust, I recommend the resource, “Safe Enough to Soar: Accelerating Trust, Inclusion, and Collaboration in the Workplace.” It is a great starting point for any leadership team to assess their organizational readiness, and to serve as a foundational guide for organizations ready to dig into the work of creating inclusion.  If you would benefit from support in moving your organization to a place of inclusion, Humanidei is here to help.center_img 5SHARESShareShareSharePrintMailGooglePinterestDiggRedditStumbleuponDeliciousBufferTumblr,Jill Nowacki Jill Nowacki started her career with credit unions in 2001. 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Focus on the Positive: 10 DO’s for a Successful Relationship.

first_img Sharing is caring! LifestyleRelationships Focus on the Positive: 10 DO’s for a Successful Relationship. by: – June 6, 2011 Share Share 38 Views   no discussionscenter_img Tweet Share Agyness Deyn and Orlando Bloom Photo: Terry Richardson, Me & CityI recently came across an article in Psychology Today that made one very interesting point about relationships: people need to stop listening to the dont’s and start focusing more on the do’s. It’s not exactly a novel idea, but it’s a pretty good one – and one that most jaded people in relationships tend to ignore. The author goes on to talk about something called, “approach orientation, moving toward what’s good, rather than moving away from what’s bad.” How many times do you find yourself focusing on all the things that are wrong with your relationship, usually ready to hightail it out of there at the first sign of trouble. Instead, it wouldn’t kill us to focus on the good, strengthening the parts that are actually working – It’s all about “maximizing positives.” Here are 10 expert DO’s from some leading positivity-oriented psychologists. DO be greatful “Gratitude helps remind us of the good qualities in our partners. We get into these routines and start taking our partners for granted… But gratitude can work as a booster shot, injecting positive emotion into the relationship.” – Sara Algoe, a psychologist at the University of North Carolina at Chapel HillDO poke fun at each other“Playfulness is one of the first casualties of a busy life. You have to keep it alive by having fun, joking around, using silly nicknames… Couples who teased each other in the heat of a conflict felt more connected after the fact.” – Dacher Keltner, professor of psychology at University of California, BerkeleyDO capitalize on good news“We expect our partners to provide us with a shoulder to cry on when times are tough–but how couples behave during good times might be even more important. Partners who respond enthusiastically to each other’s successes, report greater relationship satisfaction over time.” – Shelly Gable, researcher at the University of California, Santa BarbaraDO idealize each other “We may think putting our mates on a pedestal is unrealistic—but in fact, partners who idealize each other wind up happier. Partners in the most satisfied couples rate their mates more positively than the mates rate themselves.” – Sandra Murray, a psychologist at the University at Buffalo (SUNY)DO find your ideal self – in your partner “Called the Michelangelo effect, since partners can help sculpt each other’s best selves by affirming each other’s efforts at self-improvement. The aspiring fitness buff, for example, appreciates her athletic partner’s reminders to work out.” – Caryl Rusbult, psychologist at the Free University of AmsterdamDO notice what’s new about your partner “You feel like you’ve captured who this is in your mind, so you hold them still, but they’re actually growing and changing all the time. Once we think we know another person so well that we don’t pay attention to them anymore, the person stops being seen.” – Ellen Langer, psychologist at Harvard University DO be greatful “Gratitude helps remind us of the good qualities in our partners. We get into these routines and start taking our partners for granted… But gratitude can work as a booster shot, injecting positive emotion into the relationship.” – Sara Algoe, a psychologist at the University of North Carolina at Chapel HillDO poke fun at each other“Playfulness is one of the first casualties of a busy life. You have to keep it alive by having fun, joking around, using silly nicknames… Couples who teased each other in the heat of a conflict felt more connected after the fact.” – Dacher Keltner, professor of psychology at University of California, BerkeleyDO capitalize on good news“We expect our partners to provide us with a shoulder to cry on when times are tough–but how couples behave during good times might be even more important. Partners who respond enthusiastically to each other’s successes, report greater relationship satisfaction over time.” – Shelly Gable, researcher at the University of California, Santa Barbara20 Things Girls Want Boys To DoDO put it in writing “When participants wrote about their relationships for 20 minutes at a time for 3 days, they were more likely to be together 3 months later. They also expressed more positive emotions in instant message conversations with each other.” – A University of Texas studyDO provide support in secret “Overt social support carries a cost: Partners feel obligated, which leads to more stress… The most effective support was actually ‘invisible.’” – Niall Bolger, a psychologist at Columbia UniversityDO get back in touch “Cultivating ‘body sense’ awareness on one’s own and with one’s partner is essential, not only for a good sexual relationship but during any close encounter,” – Alan Fogel, a psychologist at University of Utah DO look after yourself “If you’re going through a rough patch, often the most effective thing that you can do is to lovingly remove your attention from the relationship–period…Forget about what the other person is doing badly, or isn’t doing, and focus on taking positive action in your own life instead.” – Susan Biali, wellness coach and author of Your Prescription for Lifeby StyleCasterlast_img read more


Going for gold at Nationals is my main aim, says Garnett

first_imgCOME this month end some 1 500 athletes will be assembling for the National Schools Cycling, Swimming and Track and Field Championships, better known as Nationals.It’s Guyana’s longest-running multi-sport schools event, and for many participating it’s usually an honour just being there, even if they don’t get a chance to earn one of those medals. However, one athlete who is looking forward to this year’s event is Tiffauna Garnett.For Garnett, she hopes to use this year’s event to improve her performance as a national athlete. The super upcoming runner will be representing the South Georgetown District 13 at the esteemed event, where athletes from across 15 different districts will be participating.Garnett, who has achieved only a silver medal at Nationals, is really hoping to secure gold. But there will be at least two major hurdles for the Freeburg Secondary School student – national athletes Kenisha Phillips and Deshauna Skeete.To date, Skeete and Phillips have been Guyana’s top performing female sprinters, solidifying their places with recent medals on the international scene. But Tiffauna, who has been developing her skills over the years, says that she’s ready to throw her hat into the ring in a big way.“Once I train, I know I can go forward for it. So far my training has been coming along good. I’ve been training in the morning and afternoons just for this from 06:00hrs,” Garnett said.Garnett will be running in the Girls’ Under-18 category in the 100m, 200m and 400m as well as in the long jump.At least in the sprints, she is sure to encounter Phillips, who will be representing North Georgetown District 11.But Phillips has been enjoying a great year, most recently medalling at the South American Youth Games. She’s also the reigning Girls’ Under-18 100m champion.But, despite the challenge, a confident Garnett is looking forward to the competition.Like the other students, over the past few weeks, Garnett has been going through the rounds from inter-house, to inter-school, to inter-zone, to qualify for a spot on the South Georgetown District’s team to Nationals.And it has so far been an easy task, after she took major wins; so she’s looking forward to the challenge to help push her towards improving her skills.This will be Garnett’s fourth year at Nationals, having competed consecutively since 2014. It was in the Girls’ Under-12 category that she won silver in the 100m.After making it to Nationals and realising she had a talent in athletics, Garnett decided to join a club, with the encouragement of her father. From there she has been measuring her improvements and is really looking forward to using this year’s Nationals to see how far she’s come.last_img read more


Dodgers sweep way past Mets

first_img Newsroom GuidelinesNews TipsContact UsReport an Error Also for the second consecutive day, the Mets’ momentum died there. The Dodgers’ first hit of the game was a solo home run by Justin Turner in the third inning. The next batter, Cody Bellinger, lined a ground-rule double over the short right field fence on one hop. Kiké Hernandez hit Steven Matz’s next pitch over the fence for a two-run home run. It was the Dodgers’ 14th home run of the series, and it gave the Dodgers a 3-1 lead.Rather than pile on, the Dodgers let up.Matz completed six innings and did not allow another hit. The only trouble he encountered was when Austin Barnes walked to lead off the fourth inning, then stole second and third base. No Dodger catcher had stolen two bases in the same game – let alone the same inning – since Russell Martin in 2010. But Barnes was stranded when Ryu struck out and Logan Forsythe lined out to left field.Matz allowed only three hits and three runs over six innings, while walking five batters and striking out eight.The Dodgers retook the lead in the seventh inning on a solo home run by Joc Pederson, their 15th homer in the series. It wasn’t Roberts’ only curious call from the dugout, but they all worked Thursday. They worked all series. The Dodgers swept the four-game set from the Mets, winning 6-3.In his 12th start of the season — his fifth since rejoining the rotation — Dodgers starter Hyun-Jin Ryu allowed two runs in five innings. He threw a fairly efficient 86 pitches, well short of the 105 he threw in his previous outing.But Roberts decided he’d seen enough from Ryu with a Dodgers nursing a 3-2 lead after five innings. The Mets found new life with Chris Hatcher on the mound in the sixth inning. A two-out double by Lucas Duda drove in Jay Bruce to tie the game 3-3.Ryu lowered his earned-run average for the season to 4.30. Hatcher saw his ERA rise to 4.66.For the second consecutive day, Curtis Granderson led off the game with a home run. He sent Ryu’s fourth pitch, a 92 mph fastball, over the fence in right-center field.center_img LOS ANGELES >> Corey Seager never let go of his bat.The Dodgers had loaded the bases with two outs in the seventh inning Thursday, looking to pad a 4-3 lead against the New York Mets. The pitcher, Pedro Baez, was due to bat. Right-hander Sergio Romo was warming up in the bullpen. Seager, arguably the Dodgers’ best all-around hitter, was standing in the on-deck circle.And then he wasn’t.Dave Roberts called Seager back into the dugout so that Baez could hit for himself against reliever Jerry Blevins. The unorthodox decision paid off when Blevins threw four pitches out of the strike zone, walking Baez to force in a run before the announced crowd of 45,967 at Dodger Stadium.last_img read more



first_imgCATHAL Mac Suibhne’s Donegal GAA Blog: Dún na nGall Kings Defeat Students From QueensAnother win recorded for Donegal tonight in Ballybofey against Queens University and whatever about the epitaphs of this year’s McKenna Cup as regards qualification and the blooding of players, Jim McGuinness can look back on a tournament where he’s trebled his win rate. He again picked a strong side for this encounter with the Belfast students; the Neils, McGee and Gallagher, in from the start after seeing second half action in Armagh on Sunday.The team knew a big score was essential if they were to have any chance of a semi-final spot and Michael Murphy and Colm McFadden didn’t waste time in getting scores on the board. Donegal ran incessantly at the Queens defence and drew plenty of frees in the process. It can be taken for granted at times but it is such a huge advantage the team possesses in having two of the games deadliest free-takers; and better again having one on either side of the field.The hosts registered 1-7 in the first half including another thunderbolt of a goal from Murphy, this time from even further out than his effort against Tyrone in O’Donnell Park. The students managed to net two goals in the opening period and that is something that won’t please McGuinness or indeed Damian Diver, who was brought on board this year for his expertise in defence. Moments into the second half Ryan Rafferty bagged his third goal of the night for the visitors.It became fairly clear early on that Monaghan were going to have things much their own way against Fermanagh and in turn pip Donegal to the best runner-up spot – Tyrone, Derry and Cavan all qualified safely as group winners.Jim again used his bench at half time with Rory Kavanagh, David Walsh and the returning Christy Toye entering the fray; Christy hadn’t pulled on a Donegal jersey since that wonderful day sixteen months ago in the All-Ireland Final. He also endured a long spell away from the action from 2009 to 2011 with an Achilles problem so unfortunately the St Michael’s man is no stranger to long injury lay-offs; hopefully he’ll get a good run at training over the next few months as he always does a job for his side and is a key member of the squad. Murphy got things going again for his team after the resumption, this time a point off his ‘weaker’ left foot – that is if there is anything weak in his repertoire. This of course was Michael’s first McKenna Cup campaign for Donegal in a number of years having previously been tied to playing with his college, DCU. He looks as sharp as ever and if he can keep this form and fitness up it should be another big year for the maestro.Stephen McLaughlin saw some more action tonight after making a brief cameo at the Atheltic Grounds at the weekend and he got his name on the score sheet with a point midway through the second period. That just leaves Kilybegs’ Hugh McFadden as the last of newcomers to the panel who has yet to see some action so expect him to be given a run at some stage in league.The black card was much talked about prior to the McKenna Cup but it didn’t have as big an impact as many had anticipated; it did rear its head more conspicuously in tonight’s game though with students receiving their marching orders and having to be replaced.Donegal made a good fist of things in the second half as regards racking up a high score, finishing with 3-17; with Monaghan though posting 2-20 in Brewster Park and having a superior points difference coming into tonight, they were always in the driving seat and they go on to meet Cavan this weekend; Tyrone and Derry make up the semi-final quartet.The one worry on the night was a knock picked up by Rory Kavanagh; we don’t have the strongest of panels but this is especially true around midfield – Kavanagh and Gallagher fully fit are a must for Donegal so that will certainly be a headache for the management team if it turns out to be anything more than just a knock. So pre-season is done with and next up its National League and O’Moore Park in Portlaoise is the first port of call for green and gold supporters. In theory at least the players should hit the ground running in the league and be well in contention having got some game time into the legs in the last ten days. While undoubtedly Division One is a higher standard, once you go beneath the top three or four teams the rest are on a par with those in the second tier so there’s no such thing as easy games.Winning the league is a realistic target for McGuinness but it will be anything but straight forward. It worked well in 2011, when we last played in Division Two, losing just one game out of eight and getting better and better as the Championship went on after that. There’ll be no such luxuries available this year – Derry in Celtic Park in our Ulster Championship opener will be a huge challenge and the team must be firing on all cylinders for that.That tough fixture makes the league even more important; despite getting relegated with the draw against eventual All-Ireland winners Dublin in the last game last season, McGuinness’ men played well that day and it set them up for the battle against Tyrone a few weeks later; and no doubt Jim will be hoping that an appearance on league final day in Croke Park in April could set the boys up nicely for Derry.CATHAL’S GAA BLOG: DONEGAL KINGS DEFEAT STUDENTS FROM QUEEN’S was last modified: January 16th, 2014 by John2Share this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)Tags:CATHAL’S GAA BLOG: DONEGAL KINGS DEFEAT STUDENTS FROM QUEEN’Slast_img read more