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Sharing is caring! LifestyleRelationships Focus on the Positive: 10 DO’s for a Successful Relationship. by: – June 6, 2011 Share Share 38 Views no discussions Tweet Share Agyness Deyn and Orlando Bloom Photo: Terry Richardson, Me & CityI recently came across an article in Psychology Today that made one very interesting point about relationships: people need to stop listening to the dont’s and start focusing more on the do’s. It’s not exactly a novel idea, but it’s a pretty good one – and one that most jaded people in relationships tend to ignore. The author goes on to talk about something called, “approach orientation, moving toward what’s good, rather than moving away from what’s bad.” How many times do you find yourself focusing on all the things that are wrong with your relationship, usually ready to hightail it out of there at the first sign of trouble. Instead, it wouldn’t kill us to focus on the good, strengthening the parts that are actually working – It’s all about “maximizing positives.” Here are 10 expert DO’s from some leading positivity-oriented psychologists. DO be greatful “Gratitude helps remind us of the good qualities in our partners. We get into these routines and start taking our partners for granted… But gratitude can work as a booster shot, injecting positive emotion into the relationship.” – Sara Algoe, a psychologist at the University of North Carolina at Chapel HillDO poke fun at each other“Playfulness is one of the first casualties of a busy life. You have to keep it alive by having fun, joking around, using silly nicknames… Couples who teased each other in the heat of a conflict felt more connected after the fact.” – Dacher Keltner, professor of psychology at University of California, BerkeleyDO capitalize on good news“We expect our partners to provide us with a shoulder to cry on when times are tough–but how couples behave during good times might be even more important. Partners who respond enthusiastically to each other’s successes, report greater relationship satisfaction over time.” – Shelly Gable, researcher at the University of California, Santa BarbaraDO idealize each other “We may think putting our mates on a pedestal is unrealistic—but in fact, partners who idealize each other wind up happier. Partners in the most satisfied couples rate their mates more positively than the mates rate themselves.” – Sandra Murray, a psychologist at the University at Buffalo (SUNY)DO find your ideal self – in your partner “Called the Michelangelo effect, since partners can help sculpt each other’s best selves by affirming each other’s efforts at self-improvement. The aspiring fitness buff, for example, appreciates her athletic partner’s reminders to work out.” – Caryl Rusbult, psychologist at the Free University of AmsterdamDO notice what’s new about your partner “You feel like you’ve captured who this is in your mind, so you hold them still, but they’re actually growing and changing all the time. Once we think we know another person so well that we don’t pay attention to them anymore, the person stops being seen.” – Ellen Langer, psychologist at Harvard University DO be greatful “Gratitude helps remind us of the good qualities in our partners. We get into these routines and start taking our partners for granted… But gratitude can work as a booster shot, injecting positive emotion into the relationship.” – Sara Algoe, a psychologist at the University of North Carolina at Chapel HillDO poke fun at each other“Playfulness is one of the first casualties of a busy life. You have to keep it alive by having fun, joking around, using silly nicknames… Couples who teased each other in the heat of a conflict felt more connected after the fact.” – Dacher Keltner, professor of psychology at University of California, BerkeleyDO capitalize on good news“We expect our partners to provide us with a shoulder to cry on when times are tough–but how couples behave during good times might be even more important. Partners who respond enthusiastically to each other’s successes, report greater relationship satisfaction over time.” – Shelly Gable, researcher at the University of California, Santa Barbara20 Things Girls Want Boys To DoDO put it in writing “When participants wrote about their relationships for 20 minutes at a time for 3 days, they were more likely to be together 3 months later. They also expressed more positive emotions in instant message conversations with each other.” – A University of Texas studyDO provide support in secret “Overt social support carries a cost: Partners feel obligated, which leads to more stress… The most effective support was actually ‘invisible.’” – Niall Bolger, a psychologist at Columbia UniversityDO get back in touch “Cultivating ‘body sense’ awareness on one’s own and with one’s partner is essential, not only for a good sexual relationship but during any close encounter,” – Alan Fogel, a psychologist at University of Utah DO look after yourself “If you’re going through a rough patch, often the most effective thing that you can do is to lovingly remove your attention from the relationship–period…Forget about what the other person is doing badly, or isn’t doing, and focus on taking positive action in your own life instead.” – Susan Biali, wellness coach and author of Your Prescription for Lifeby StyleCaster
Facebook Twitter Google+ Published on March 3, 2018 at 6:23 pm Contact Sam: [email protected] | @Sam4TR Syracuse hadn’t scored in nearly eight minutes and Clemson attacked, hungry to land a final blow to the once-sizeable deficit it had reduced to one bucket.Clemson redshirt junior guard Marcquise Reed had stung the Orange repeatedly throughout the second half, with five 3-pointers and a flurry of short jumpers, and he had the chance to finally tie the game up again. The 6-foot-3 Reed maneuvered his way inside until he found Syracuse’s Paschal Chukwu blocking his way, but the 7-foot-2 center was one foul away from spectating the final seconds. Reed tried to draw a foul as he shot, but SU freshman forward Oshae Brissett flew in from stage left and managed to get a hand on it.“I just wanted to be there,” Brissett said. “We have Paschal contending, but Reed can move around. He’s a great scorer, so I needed to be there to help out.”Brissett’s block, late free-throw shooting and a rimmed-out Clemson half-court heave gave the Orange what star guard Tyus Battle called “the biggest win we’ve had all year.” The Orange didn’t score a field goal for nearly the final nine minutes, but Syracuse’s (19-12, 8-10 Atlantic Coast) defense held fast to close out the regular season with an upset of No. 18 Clemson (22-8, 11-7), 55-52, on Saturday afternoon in the Carrier Dome.The victory came in front of a similar crowd, record in numbers and raucous in volume, to what it had played in front of two Wednesdays ago against then-No. 10 North Carolina. This time, though, Syracuse finished the job and started a long trek to avoid taking consecutive trips to the National Invitation Tournament for the first time since the 2006-07 and 2007-08 seasons. Brissett called it the marquee win Syracuse’s NCAA Tournament resume has so far lacked, but the Orange begins its last shot to impress the Selection Committee on Tuesday night against Wake Forest at the ACC tournament in Brooklyn, New York.AdvertisementThis is placeholder text“We were about as challenged offensively as you can be,” said Syracuse head coach Jim Boeheim. “We just were able to make enough plays, get some rebounds, didn’t turn it over today, that was a big factor. … That was just a tough defensive game.”Beating Clemson not only re-energized Syracuse’s postseason campaign, but it also served as a barometer for how the Orange hopes to get there. When asked what the Orange’s best chance was at making the Tournament, Battle quickly said, “Play defense.”He added: “We win off our defense. We hold a team to 60-something points and that’s enough in most games.”Saturday afternoon, Clemson did what many teams have done this season and tried to attack the Orange’s 2-3 zone through the high post and down low with its big men. Midway through the second half, Syracuse center Bourama Sidibe was whistled for a foul on a layup and put the Orange in a precarious position. He and the Orange’s other center, Chukwu, both had four fouls that led to the Tigers attacking relentlessly inside.Though the Orange won the rebounding battle (36 to 33) and protected the offensive glass (allowing nine boards there), Clemson’s two bigs, Elijah Thomas and Aamir Simms bully-balled. The pair rough-housed their way to nearly half the team’s points and complemented Reed’s game-high 21.But the timidity Syracuse has shown at times when key players like Chukwu have four fouls disappeared against Clemson. That was by design, Chukwu said.“Coach Boeheim told me, ‘You have four fouls, but don’t let that discourage you,’” Chukwu said. “‘Marek (Dolezaj) or Bourama can step in the middle (if you foul out).’ I had four fouls, but I tried to play like I had zero, because I was fighting down there and that’s all I could do.”Late in the second half, with the score tied at 45, Thomas stole the ball from Battle and Clemson broke up the court. Tigers senior guard Gabe DeVoe ended up with the ball and rose through the air trying to give his team its first lead in more than 10 minutes.Chukwu nearly pinned the ball off the left side of the backboard and the Carrier Dome erupted. Chukwu fell on the floor. Clemson grabbed an offensive rebound and worked the ball left to right and it ended up in DeVoe’s hands as he drove in. Chukwu stood up. DeVoe noticed and tried a floater. Chukwu swatted the shot like he was spiking a volleyball and the Dome roared to a standing ovation. The Tigers grabbed the ball but threw it out of bounds seconds later.“That second block, everyone went crazy,” Chukwu said, smiling after the game. “I was able to feel that energy.”Boeheim added: “We needed those plays from him. He started out the game good and he finished with those. We need him to be more effective defensively.”On the next possession, Brissett hit two free throws to give the Orange a lead it would never relinquish. And, as everything did Saturday, it came down to Syracuse on defense. This time, the Orange made all the plays it needed to. Comments
He’s been to the Pro Bowl twice and, believe it or not, has the second-highest career completion percentage in NFL history. Sure, other quarterbacks have more talent than Cousins, but that’s not the discussion. If anything, Cousins is great at being good, but not too good. And that’s exactly how he became the highest-ranked NFL player on Forbes’ 2020 list of the highest-paid athletes in the world. Cousins collected $28 million from the Vikings in 2019 salary. He then signed a two year, $66 million extension this offseason with a $30 million signing bonus due as soon as the ink dried on the contract. Adding in endorsements, Forbes estimates Cousins brought in $60.5 million in the last 12 months, the ninth-most of any athlete in the world, one slot behind a fella named Tiger Woods. MORE: Goodell gets out of watching ‘MNF’ with Barstool’s Dave PortnoyHe benefits in these rankings by essentially getting paid for two seasons within the same 12-month period, but it’s more than just a fluke. He ranks so highly as a result of successfully betting on himself. If you’ll remember, Cousins took over for Robert Griffin III as the Redskins’ starter in 2015, the final year of his rookie contract. Cousins led Washington to an NFC East division title and a playoff berth in his first year as the full-time starter, while also leading the league in completion percentage. The Redskins weren’t ready to commit long term, so they placed the franchise tag on him. He made the Pro Bowl in 2016, but the sides still couldn’t agree to a long-term deal, so the Redskins placed the franchise tag on him again, this time at 120 percent of his previous salary. Finally, in 2017, Cousins’ ability to be good, but not great, shined. The team missed the playoffs with a 7-9 record. After three seasons, it was clear Cousins was good enough to have success, but not good enough to elevate a team to greatness without a talented supporting cast. A third consecutive franchise tag would have cost Washington more than $34 million for 2018 and made Cousins the highest-paid player in the league. The Redskins declined and a 29-year-old Cousins hit free agency for the first time. MORE: Brian Flores, more athletes react to George Floyd death, Minneapolis riotsA legitimate starting quarterback hitting the open market in recent memory is as common as Ben Simmons hitting a 3-pointer: it has happened twice. Peyton Manning went to the Broncos in 2012 and Drew Brees went to the Saints in 2006, but both of those guys were coming off injuries. Cousins was healthy and relatively young and had all the leverage in the world, which he used to his advantage. In 2018, he signed a fully guaranteed three-year, $84 million contract with the Vikings, the first fully guaranteed contract in NFL history. Kirk Cousins was blessed with the perfect amount of talent. He’s a good quarterback, but few will anoint him as being great. In his first four years as a full-time starter, Cousins finished each season within one game of a .500 record. He’s one of two active quarterbacks with multiple ties in his career. The other is Andy Dalton. In the NBA and MLB, you don’t hear things like “a $90 million contract with $50 million guaranteed” because almost all of those contracts are fully guaranteed. The NBA is a star-driven league where the players have leverage. The NFL is different, with the exception of the quarterback, the most important position in all of sports. NFL teams need good quarterbacks to win (duh), so they’ll do whatever they need to do to get them.It was thought Cousins’ contract could possibly start a trend, but no other players have signed a fully guaranteed deal since. If Patrick Mahomes or Russell Wilson or even Dak Prescott were to hit the open market, that would likely change. But if an NFL team has a great quarterback, it’s likely to do whatever it can to lock them into a long-term deal, and quarterbacks are likely to sign those deals thanks to the certainty and security they provide. Cousins had to risk playing in a contract year for three consecutive seasons, but he was rewarded.In Washington, Cousins fell just shy of the threshold that made him impossible to lose for the Redskins. It turns out Cousins’ incredible ability to be a good-but-not-great quarterback might be a reason he’s the highest-compensated player in the NFL. If people out there are aiming to be great, then here’s a reminder that being good is OK, too. You might even end up as the ninth highest-paid athlete in the world.